Monday, December 15, 2014

Dear Anonymous

I thought I should drop by and write you here. Since you caught me on a pretty bad day and mention this space in particular, in the recent bad feedback you left on Etsy. Inferring that I am a liar because I wrote explaining that we are, as most small online business this season can attest to, swamped with holiday orders but doing the best we can to ensure every single one of them arrives in time for the big day. Apologizing for the delay in response and sending (albeit late) tracking to ease concerns about the arrival of said purchase. You chide me for claiming a full plate, when evidence here shows all I am doing is happily crafting my days away and buying "overpriced Christmas trees."

You're right. We did spend a couple afternoons making idle crafts. And yes, we did take our kids to buy a tree the weekend after Thanksgiving. And then, in between those two posts featured here, we also were dealing with a sudden delay in the shipment of our entire canvas supply. Another stolen car, Hurt feelings at school. Sick babies and birthday parties for family members. School events, site word practice, library books and baths. Mornings spent in the classroom where I help out twice a week. Emails, and emails and more emails I try to tackle late at night long after homework because it's the only time I have to myself to answer in quiet. And, there were Rain storms that rolled in and forced the production of our entire shop indoors to keep the orders running on time, causing my entire home to become a working factory for the past week and a half engulfed in sawdust, teepees in plastic covers piled six feet high in our dining room blocking the tree from getting decorated like we had hoped for. Like all kids look forward to this time of year.

There were things that I guess I should have been more clear about. All kinds of "things" that sprung up in a house full of four children and a business run by two people. As I type here now, my husband is outside with two hired hands in our drive way sanding, carving and packing every single order that still needs to go out. And I am working my fastest to keep up with online questions and concerns that come with those worried about their holiday purchases. Printing tickets and preparing for my son's ninth birthday which is three days away, and paying bills and hoping to God the baby sleeps one extra hour so I can get through as much of it as I can before I need to nurse and kiss and comfort him in between the remainder of those online duties that will pull me away from his attention. And then, if I still need to, I will be up again until two in the morning, finishing what work I can't manage to tie up in the time slots I've managed to snag throughout the day.

So, just to be clear, yes we did buy that 80 dollar tree. And yes, I did take a Sunday to make snow globes with my boys. But in between that a million other things happened too. And we are stress filled and next to tears in the final days leading up to Christmas because we want every person who gives us their money to be entirely satisfied with the product we send out. We pulled it off last year and fingers crossed will do so again. And yet working equally as hard to ensure our kids have the best Christmas we can possibly offer them in the midst of it all. So while I have no qualms sucking up complaints the speak of failed communication or dissatisfaction attached to annoying shipping delays - those things I know I can work on -  I do take offense at the assumptions that what I post here is our life in full, when really it's just sparse highlights of events and afternoons I choose to share either because they are something I want to remember, or feel others might enjoy or relate to in some way. I apologize if it reads as anything other than that. And all I ask is that next time, maybe hold off on the biting review until you actually receive the order? Until you open it up and see just how much work goes into the product that arrived late (and maybe without satisfactory assurance) but still in time for Christmas? And likely, something that should last your children years to come. And then, if you are still unhappy, try to be a bit constructive in your feedback? Because nobody likes being called a liar. Especially when they are existing on four hours of sleep, with three Christmas lists left to fill, a birthday party to plan, and a couple hundred orders that need to make it out before this coming Wed. I have a week to make a lot of miracles happen. And you what else, 90 percent of it won't ever be shared here.

So maybe down the line, you can have that in mind. Or stick to Amazon Prime where factories full fill wishes and feelings don't get hurt.

In the meantime, we are hoping you have a Merry Christmas and reconsider your disgust with Etsy. And above all, that the teepee you ordered in mid November, brings someone in your home real joy and long term delight come early Christmas morning.



Sincerely,
Jessica Kraus

26 comments:

  1. I am amazed. You are so generous to even write this so honestly and candidly... much more than the Anonymous reviewer deserves, but I sure enjoyed reading it!

    Sending you so many good thoughts for these last few moments of production, birthday party bliss and some quiet moments in between.

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    1. weeeell, I think it was more for me. I was angry when I read the review this morning (during my stint as monday room mom) so I figured I would address it here, which is where this person seems to think all the answers are.

      Hello Nasty negativity!

      thanks for writing Layla.

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  2. Oh boy. Hugs from one mama to another. Thanks for sharing the magic of some of your sweet little moments here along with all the other wonderful and *unseen by everyone* things that you do for your family and loved ones. XO.

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  3. Jessica, I saw that review and I wanted to bite right back at that person via Etsy. But, as usual, you replied with grace and firmness in the most perfect way and hopefully she writes a better one and apologizes when she sees the most beautiful tee pee ever. Hoping for lots of miracles for you all to get everything done!

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    1. haha! I am so happy to hear I was not being over emotional about it Josie! I mean, I thought it was kind of mean, and even a little nasty. As if all I do is hang out and shop and make crafts. So silly to assume what's shared here is the full extent of anyone's life. It irritated me which is why I wrote the letter. For this woman, and myself. There is a way to offer negative feedback, but calling someone a liar because of their online persona seems like a low blow. Thanks for writing! And thank you more for your support. xox

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  4. I suppose they could have ordered from a sweatshop where workers aren't paid well and lead horrible lives. I think they missed the point of ordering from Etsy...to support small businesses that offer quality, handmade items. So sorry you have to deal with self-centered obnoxious people but glad you handled it so well. Happy holidays.

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  6. I recently noticed some bothersome comments on one of your instagram posts and was thinking about how weird it must be to watch people comment on your life like you aren't even there. I think people forget that even if you get a lot of "likes" on instagram, you're still just a person, and this is your real life. It's a bummer that this jerk had to take their bad attitude out on you and bring your livelihood into the mix.
    For what its worth, you have lots of fans here in Oregon. We watched the Leon dancing video 4 times this morning. What a joy. xo

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  7. The woman that left the anonymous comment clearly didn't see the AMAZING karaoke video that you posted via Instagram yesterday of Leon. That video alone should hold any customers over while they await the arrival of their gorgeous tee pees. If that isn't enough to entertain someone for a few weeks, I don't know what is. :)

    But seriously though, I think your reaction was perfectly entitled considering the low blow from Ms. Anonymous. You have a full house of amazing (and highly entertaining) children, you run your own business, and seem to do it all with great balance and grace .

    Kudos to you!

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    1. hahah!

      Doesn't Leon just solve everything. I mean, maybe I should have him write (or sing) the responses for me :D

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  8. I'm really sorry you had to field that worst case scenario Scrooge. That really stinks.

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    1. it was really just one more thing to irritate me with an already very trying week ahead :/

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  10. It's a shame, really, but you have thousands of really great reviews! You and your family are incredible. This one rude ignorant comment can't, and certainy won't, define your greatness and/or override all the other great reviews. Keep it up, you guys are awesome!

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    1. the funny thing about feedback is that the few negatives greatly outweigh all the rest. We had one rough month, when I was in the hospital while pregnant with Hayes and it shut us down completely. It was crazy how it all came to a halt once three "bad" reviews hit, even though 95 percent of our other feedback was filled with glowing reviews. Anyway, I was mostly bothered by the assumption that I am carefree and just hanging out because of two posts that showed regular holiday things all families are part of this season. Not right, ya know?

      But thank you so much for your support!

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  11. Oh man... Just want to say from one overwealmed mama to the other (with half the number of kids!), what what a bummer! I am really glad my students and clients can't write public and anonymous reviews. My skin just isn't thick enough, and while I know your blog and instagram must be essential to your business, I specifically keep mine anonymous for this reason. I don't need people checking my personal journal and comparing notes...regardless of how public the forum. It's never the complete picture, even when we aim to be candid.

    Good luck pulling off all the miracles. You can do it!

    Xox Lilly

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  12. Just want to wish you and that marvelous family of yours a wonderful Christmas. Thank you for sharing so many delightful highlights of your family life...the ups, the downs, the in-between s. Great splashes of humor, such as Leon's recent karaoke. That boy can really dance! Great personality shining through there (like Gangnam style) :D
    Anyways, I enjoy your blog thoroughly and find myself checking in fairly often to see whats up with those 4 busy boys. I love how they are all very different; yet somehow seem to be a perfect fit for a family!
    One thing I find that always shines through with your writing is your honesty. No veneer, which is refreshing. This is the main reason I like to return to your blog.
    Off topic... little Hayes has the most perfectly shaped eyebrows. Such a sweetie pie.

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  13. oh, I forgot to mention little Jack. Every time I see him in one of your family photos, I have to smile. He is the cherry on the cake :)

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  14. There is always one. But hopefully only one. You are doing a fantastic job in all that you do. Your boys are proof of what an amazing mama you are.
    I am sorry to hear how stressful it is for you all. Im sure christmas will be magical, the birthday party will be a huge success and Christmas wishes will be fulfilled. Much love from all at The Bungalow in the UK xxx

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  15. Wow. Some people can be rough and full of assumptions. I'm sorry to hear that people are that critical as to call you a liar in a review because they got an order a little late, yet still in time for Christmas. That really just sucks. I'm sure most people who read your blog can understand from your words that your life is zooming by and is filled to the brim and you're just trying to slow it down and keep some memories along the way by writing a few choice stories you've picked up along the way here. For what it's worth, I love reading your blog.

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  16. you shouldn't have to jusitfy your sweet family's life to ANYONE. may that certain individual who expressed such great aggitation, be reminded that the holiday season is about love, kindness, compassion, and being humbled by gratitude.

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  17. Oh dear. I'm so sorry you have to deal with things like this Jessica. I guess it's all par for the course. Christmas really does bring out the temper in some people. I know it's easier to say "try to forget about it" than do it. (It's kind of like that person who cut you off in traffic and then honked at you...bugs you all day) But that's probably the best thing you can do and get on with life. For the record, our Christmas tree also cost about that much in a town where the cheapest, smallest, scraggliest trees start at $40. PS: I love reading your blog and keeping up with your family and look forward to each new post. Big hugs.

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  18. I love your blog and The Ma Books - I've told so many friends to check it out. When I was young, we hit a rough spot and I had no choice but to clean houses to make some money. I worked for this older woman and she was always so difficult, there was no pleasing her, and I just couldn't stand going to her house, but we needed the money. One day I was looking at one of her paintings and she said to me, "Oh, I didn't think someone like you would appreciate art". Her condescending attitude, her assumption that because I was a house cleaner I must be ignorant...my blood was boiling and I know my face was red. I worked for a few more minutes and then I just got my handbag & coat and she was yelling behind me - "I need you to set up the card tables!" (she was hosting her Christmas card party the next day) and I just kept walking. I got in my car and took off and started crying. Of course, I never went back to her house. That was over 30 years ago. It hurts when someone makes unfounded assumptions about us. Now, I'm always extra nice to any young woman I see working a low paying job that may not garner her much respect...I've been there myself. Thanks for your honesty Jessica and Happy Holidays to you and your family.

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  19. Holy hell, you are just amazing. I love this "to whom it may concern" letter and hope with all my heart that the party in question reads it. And it's an excellent reminder to all of us, especially this time of year. . . still magical amidst the craze of consumerism (and thank YOU, you rad woman for keeping the magic there for your boys and all of us). . . that we could all use some patience and humility and understanding. . and to slow down and savor the magic of the return of the light, no matter where we are.
    Happy winter and Happy Christmas Miss Jessica. . . I hope it's full of lots of snuggles and laughter.
    xxo

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